Saturday, September 6, 2008

Back to Normal

As I write this post, I'm sitting here at the dining room table, in front of my laptop, gazing out the french doors and enjoying some lovely fall-like weather. The cat is looking out the screen door listening to the birds, crouched down in hopes one will come by.

My life and the lives of my husband's family are not normal right now. We lost a precious family member to cancer this week. I want my life to be normal again, but as I think about that, I wonder what normal really is and if it's possible. The normal I'm used to won't be the same anymore, I'm thinking. How can it be?

I find that as I get older and more people pass on, that I think more and more about life and living in the moment and trying not to take things for granted. I hate that losses are what makes me think about these things. I should embrace these thoughts and live them each day, keeping them uppermost in my head.

I write this, not for sympathy, but for encouragement. If you feel the need to comment, instead I ask you to use that energy to go find a loved one and embrace them, hug them, thank them. They are what's important.


  1. I'm sorry, Terry but I just have to comment. I've been hugging loved ones this week and telling them how much they mean to me. Not because I lost a loved one but because I survived something that could have turned out much worse for me.

    I remember when my Nan died (13 years ago) I thought that life would never return to normal but life is a little like water - it fills all the gaps and levels itself out - eventually.

    Our loved ones are what is important, but so are our friends, even the ones we only ever meet on line. Consider yourself hugged.


  2. my heart goes out to your family, terri! thanks for the reminder to embrace each day and each loved one as the very precious gifts that they are.

  3. I am so lucky to belong to a huggy and loving family. We have lots of hugs for each other and always some to spare.
    So I am sending a very big hug and thank you to you for reminding us how important it is to let other know what they mean to us.

  4. Terri, I hadn't read this post until now and I'm very sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you and your family and, yes, you have inspired your readers to look with loving eyes at the loved ones we still have with us.
    Take care.


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